Memories of holiday traditions once shared with a loved one who has died can be painful, but there are ways to look after ourselves and loved ones who may be grieving.

Stephannie Rosencrans, adult bereavement coordinator at 91原创 Hospice Society, has some tips to help people through the season.

鈥淲ithout a doubt, the holidays can be especially challenging for individuals and families who are grieving the recent death of a loved one,鈥� she noted.

鈥淎s we move into the holiday season, we often hear 鈥榳hat should I do about Christmas?鈥� The answer is whatever feels right to you.鈥�

Rosencrans suggested checking in with yourself and how you鈥檙e feeling, and acknowledge what you may or may not be able to handle this year.

Communication will be the key, she noted, and said it鈥檚 important to let others know what you need.

鈥淢aybe that means saying no to the neighbourhood get-together or asking someone else in your family to host Christmas dinner. it could be that you choose to incorporate a new tradition to honour your loved one, or skip an annual outing to stay safe and comfortable at home,鈥� Rosencrans explained.

She adds that keeping communication open and adjusting your own expectations can help how you navigate the holiday season.

Another suggestion is to make time for self-care, whether that鈥檚 a massage, a jog, five minutes of silence to drink a cup of tea, or a soak in the tub.

鈥淎t the heart of self-care is restoration, and if we want to give to others we need a full cup to pour from,鈥� Rosencrans said.

鈥淏e gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to rest. Set realistic goals and allow yourself to cancel plans if you need to.鈥�

She also suggested turning to others for support.

鈥淒on鈥檛 be afraid to let others know how they can help. Utilize those who have been supportive.鈥�

Lastly, Rosencrans said over time special occasions can help us begin to heal.

鈥淭ry to stay present in the moment, and accept the warmth that is yours to receive.鈥�

People can access bereavement support at 91原创 hospice online at or by calling 604-530-1115 or emailing info@langleyhospice.ca.

The office is located at 20660 48th Ave., open Mondays to Fridays, 8:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

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