Rachel Blake bought the light pink A-line dress months ago and had it altered to fit her perfectly.
She couldn鈥檛 wait to wear it to her prom.
So when the Grade 12 student found out her Oshawa, Ont., high school was cancelling the milestone June dance due to the COVID-19 pandemic, she was devastated.
鈥淚 immediately started crying, I was really upset,鈥 Blake said in a phone interview with The Canadian Press. 鈥淚t鈥檚 my last year of high school, it鈥檚 an experience that everyone is supposed to have and now I just don鈥檛 get one?
鈥淚t鈥檚 just hard to process.鈥
Blake is one of many Canadian high school seniors who may have to miss out on prom and graduation ceremonies this year as the coronavirus outbreak continues to shutter event venues and prohibit large gatherings.
Some teens may start turning to virtual celebrations to recreate these rites of passage from the safety of their homes.
Nafilia Sachedina, a psychotherapist at WellNest in Toronto who works primarily with adolescents, thinks that may be a good idea.
Sachedina described adolescence as a time of 鈥漟orming identity and a sense of emotional well-being,鈥 and having life experiences like prom and grad ripped away from teens can be particularly painful.
鈥淲e are all having a really hard time with this, but I think adolescents and teenagers are having it particularly rough, just because it鈥檚 the stage of development where every emotion feels so big and overwhelming,鈥 Sachedina said.
鈥淎ll of these milestones, like a graduation or prom or even the last day of school where you sign each other鈥檚 yearbooks, there鈥檚 so much anticipation towards these final moments of that period of life.鈥
Sachedina likened prom to a wedding day for a bride 鈥 wearing a beautiful dress, getting chauffeured in a limo, dancing and celebrating with friends.
But graduation, Sachedina said, is an equally important event, marking the closing of one chapter before another begins.
鈥淭hey鈥檙e being robbed of that experience of saying goodbye, right?鈥 Sachedina said. 鈥漇aying goodbye to their schools, saying goodbye to their peers and symbolically being able to walk off a stage and get their diploma 鈥 It鈥檚 all part of ending high school.鈥
Sachedina says teens and parents need to find creative ways to still 鈥渉onour these experiences鈥 while staying safe and maintaining social distance.
One way to do that may be to take prom and grad ceremonies to an online platform, something event planning companies around the U.S. and Canada are currently doing.
Angela Pauls, the founder of Prom Project Alberta 鈥 an organization that donates or sells affordable formal dresses to teenaged girls 鈥 is organizing password-protected Zoom graduation ceremonies for high school seniors across the country.
Pauls said 675 students have already registered through the Prom Project鈥檚 Facebook group, with the ceremonies scheduled for June 13 through multiple time zones.
Students will have the chance to walk across a 鈥渧irtual stage鈥 to receive their diplomas after their names are called out by a DJ host. An Edmonton-based company is creating personalized certificates, Pauls said, while sponsors are helping purchase cap tassels to be sent to participating students.
鈥淲e have kids that will be doing speeches and a couple students want to sing,鈥 Pauls said. 鈥淪o we want them to make it their own event.鈥
My School Dance, an American event planning company, is taking a slightly different approach by providing virtual proms on the online event platform Hopin.
Organizer Taylor Buckley says the series of online parties 鈥 called Virtual Prom Live 鈥 has recently opened to Canadian participants, making it an international event.
As of now, Virtual Prom Live has four dances scheduled. The first is happening this Saturday in the Mountain Time zone, with a Utah-based DJ hosting.
Buckley said up to 10,000 people can join one of their virtual proms, but students won鈥檛 be shown on video to everyone else. Instead, they can interact in the Hopin chat, or set up their own video calls with friends to share the experience that way.
鈥淜ids really only care about the 10 to 20 people that they were going to rent a limo with and go to dinner with and do all the post-prom stuff with,鈥 said Buckley. 鈥漇o we鈥檙e trying to encourage them to use whatever video platform they feel comfortable with and do that on a different device.鈥
Sachedina said that while these virtual events can help ease the sting of missing proms or graduation ceremonies, they won鈥檛 completely replace them.
She said it鈥檚 important for parents and teenagers to acknowledge that.
鈥淎ll we can do is try to navigate in this new norm, and a virtual prom is an excellent idea,鈥 Sachedina said. 鈥滻t鈥檚 not going to feel like the real thing, but hey, it鈥檚 a way to honour it with your closest friends and classmates.
鈥淵es, it is sad. It is disappointing. It doesn鈥檛 make up for the real experience, but this is not a forever thing. This is temporary. It鈥檚 just a delay.鈥
Blake, who just learned Wednesday that her own prom was being cancelled, hasn鈥檛 put any thought into signing up for a virtual event yet. She said the idea was intriguing though.
鈥淭hat could be really fun,鈥 she said. 鈥淪omething to get our minds off it at least.鈥
Melissa Couto, The Canadian Press
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